I met a random girl today, who within minutes started sharing her whole life. Things I probably didn’t need to know..
Don't get me wrong.. I'm all for open and honest conversations. But there's a difference between sharing authentically and oversharing, especially with someone you've just met. It just made me realize how easy it is to unintentionally cross that line, especially when we're feeling vulnerable or in need of connection. Granted, I probably made her feel safe and offered her a safe place to share, some things are just better left unsaid.
Reflecting on my own tendencies, I don’t think I’m someone who is necessarily an over sharer, but I have had my moments where I’m conversing with someone who is telling me everything about them and I’ve found myself just kinda in the middle, and I’ll tend to ramble a little. Which is embarrassing sometimes lol. But we’re all guilty of oversharing at some point in our lives. Whether it’s with strangers or those we thought we could trust, the urge to spill our thoughts and experiences can be overpowering. It’s as if we’re caught up in the flow of conversation, and we feel compelled to share in order to keep it going.
What's even crazier is realizing that sometimes, the people we confide in aren't as supportive or trustworthy as we thought. It's a harsh reality check, but an important one! Past friendships have taught me the importance of keeping certain parts of my life private. Sometimes, people you consider friends may envy and resent you, revealing that it's okay to hold back and protect your personal space.
And that has created a barrier for me when it comes to trust but I've become more comfortable with setting boundaries and protecting my privacy. I know most people probably think I’m boring or don’t know how to have a conversation, but I just rather not say much. And I allow people to think what they want about my life.
When I started my blog, I literally told no one! Not even my closest friends, not because I couldn’t, but because I needed to make sure it was something I was set on before allowing others in.
While sharing is sometimes needed to vent, it’s crucial to consider who we’re sharing with and why. Are we seeking genuine support and understanding, or are we simply feeding into the need for validation? Let's just always make sure we can trust who we’re talking to, or just get a therapist.
xoxo
zenwhispers